Q: I'm starting to get the guest list together for my upcoming wedding. I asked my fiance to give me his list so I could start ordering invites. He had his ex wife on the list. I don't have a problem with her but I just
don't want her at my wedding. I mentioned this to him and he said that she wants to be there to see and support their daughter walk down the aisle as the flower girl. He doesn't see it as a big deal and she told him since she's buying the daughter's dress, she should be able to attend.  Like I said, she and I have no problems and I don't foresee any drama, it's just that it's my day and I don't want to see my new husband's first wife watching the whole thing go down. Am I being unreasonable?

A: Hell no.
As a matter of fact, I think it's unreasonable that the ex wife assumes her presence should be acceptable to you. The last thing a new bride wants to think about is her spouse's old flames. You will be dealing with this woman for the remainder of your marriage since she's your stepdaughter's mother. You get a pass on your wedding day.  As for her buying the dress...so what? That's what moms do. And if she's
trying to use that as leverage to weasel her way into your nuptials, shame on her. That's a control tactic and she's playing dirty going that route.  Besides, think about how uncomfortable it might be for your other guests if she's there. How is she introduced? Who gets her at their table? It's not worth the potential awkwardness.  You guys can send her all the video and pictures she can handle of her kid
tossing flower petals. She doesn't get an invite in my book.