Q: I’m dating an up-and-coming music artist and so far, so good. A little while ago he was approached to do a reality dating show where different women will be vying for a date with him.  When he first told me, I laughed it off and said go for it. After all, the exposure would be great for his career and I’m definitely not the jealous type. It’s just TV and nobody believes in that stuff anyway. My friends think I’m crazy for being okay with this and tell me that this will be the end of our courtship.  Am I setting myself up for disappointment?

A: I think you’ll only be disappointed if this guy is not as into you as you are into him. If he goes into this show as an actor and not an actual dater, you should be fine. I mean, I think it’s fair to assume that once his career takes off you’ll have REAL groupies to contend with and not fake ones, anyway. I guarantee that these women “vying for a date” with him are just as much in it for themselves as he is. I highly doubt any of them are seriously thinking a love connection will be made. So if everyone knows how to separate fact from fiction, your courtship (lol) should be fine. Just be prepared for weird looks and awkward questions like, “How come your boyfriend is trying to hook-up with other chicks?” Caveat: There is the possibility that this thing could blow-up in your face and either A) He’s really NOT that into you to begin with so he uses this opportunity to get it in with other women with your blessing or B) He’s into you, but he believes in fate and meets someone on set who he feels is his soul mate.
You know him. If he’s been genuine with you, you have no reason to worry.